Mutual respect: Maintain and respect each other’s individuality. Have respect for sexual boundaries. Repect each others’ privacy.
Trust: Trust each other.
Honesty: Be honest to each other.
Support: Maintain relationships with friends and family.
Fairness/equality:Accept influence. Relationships are give and take; allowing your partner to influence you is important; this can be especially difficult for some men.
Separate identities: Take care of yourself and have good self-esteem independent of your relationship. Have activities apart from one another.
Good communication: Are able to express yourselves to one another without fear of consequences.
A sense of playfulness/fondness: Take interest in one another’s activities. Conflict is part of a relationship. Handle conflicts respectfully and playfully at the same time.
WHAT ARE THE SIGNS OF AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP?
If you feel the pressure to change who you are for the other person
If you feel the pressure to quit activities you usually do or used to enjoy
One partner feels obligated to have sex or has been forced
You have a lack of privacy, and may be forced to share everything with the other person
You experience yelling or physical violence during an argument
You or your partner refuse to use safer sex methods
You have no common friends, or have a lack of respect for each others’ friends and family
You do not make time to spend with one another
WHEN SHOULD I SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP FOR AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP?
If you feel you are being abused in your relationship. If your partner harms you physically or tries to force you to do something sexually it is a clear sign of a very unhealthy relationship and there are laws to protect you. Look up the information on marital rape, sexual harassment and sexual assault to know what you can do to stop it.
When you think you are unhappy in the relationship and are staying in the relationship for the wrong reasons, such as fear of being alone or guilt. You may want to talk to a professional counsellor.